I'm convinced that there are times in everyones lives when a person says something that they didn't MEAN to say..... but they were WANTING to say the entire time. In my area of expertise, we call this a Freudian Slip, but any psychologist who knows their salt will tell you - there is no such thing as a Freudian Slip. It was in your head, you said it, DONE!! It's only when the words are hurtful does the person claim, oh.... that slipped.... I'm sorry.
Here's my thought for the day: why does anyone have to have a hateful thought in the first place? Now, I'm not talking about commenting with friends - for example:
Girl #1: Honey, did you see that wreck of an outfit she had on today?
Girl #2: No, I didn't. Is it a hot mess?
Girl #1: Look likes someone sprayed her down with Pepto Bismol. Don't think I've seen that much pink - ever.
Girl #2: Seriously?
Girl #1: And it was all different shades of pink. I couldn't tell if she was trying to be demure or if she was just trapped in the 80's. Good God!
Is this conversation hateful? Yes. But, we've all been there. We've all done it. Whatever. It happens. In some cases, it's to make ourselves feel better. In some cases, it's because we cannot wrap our brains around the hot mess that is in front of us. Better to work it out using words than relive the nightmare all day.
I'm talking the passive / aggressive hatefulness - the comments that leave you trying to figure out where that came from. Is she mad at me? Did I do something to offend her? Or was it a bad burrito she had last night for dinner? It's those shady, underhanded comments that I cannot stand. And, as mentioned in the first paragraph, these comments are not accidental. These comments are intended to be hurtful, hateful, and create anxiety for the recipient. And I know that y'all know what I'm talking about..... we've all experienced it, but I can't say that we've all delivered it.
So, to those spreaders of passive / aggressive hatefulness that have approached my doorstep, let me say this.....KICK ROCKS!! I don't need your shit. I don't need your subtle attempts to diminish me, so STOP IT!!! I'm more than capable of creating my own anxiety. I'm more than able to stir up my own shit storm, so I certainly don't need your help in complicating my life. There! I know haters gonna hate.... but they need to hate somewhere far away from me!!!
